So Jack Pearson DIDN’T die in the fire. Can we all just sit back for a minute and take a minute a mourn the loss of a great man. If you’re reading this and haven’t watched the Super Bowl episode of This Is Us. I’m sorry. I’ve given you time. This isn’t a spoiler. I took time to process before I could even utter the words. JACK. IS. DEAD. We’ll get back to that. That isn’t the crux of everything yet that stirred some shit in my soul. It stirred shit in everyone’s soul. The world shed tears. I however needed to take some time and actually break down and sob for a while. Let’s get in our Delorean and travel back in time, shall we?
Most readers know, I grew up on what some would call, “the wrong side of the tracks.” I did not know they were the wrong side. They were just the tracks. They were the only side I knew. There were lots of things in my life: friends, sunshine, laughter…drugs, abuse, neglect…
One of the rarities growing up in an environment like mine is new clothing. Somehow (don’t ask me how or why) I ended up with a brand, spanking new Philadelphia Eagles t-shirt when I was little. I remember getting that shirt. I wore that shirt with pride. (Not so easy being in the land of the Purple People Eaters.) It was grey with forest print. It was so soft like your Grandma had washed it a hundred times with the Snuggle bear himself. Every time I put it on, I felt as if I was getting a hug. That shirt was never owned by anyone else. It was only mine. I was so proud of it. I was an E-A-G-L-E.
Then this weekend, Super Bowl 52 came home. Not only did it come to ME (yes, they were bringing it directly to me) they were bringing my birds. My little girl dreams were coming true. Something, you may not know…I am HIGHLY competitive. To. A. FAULT. Honestly, it is a problem. I should seek help. I spent the weekend Downtown Minneapolis celebrating with my fellow Eagles fans (hating on the Patriots…boooooooo) and reveling in all the excitement. It was something to FINALLY be with my people. My emotions were high and truly, it is hard to put into words the culmination of what it meant for me. It was like finally having that something. Personally, I have worked so long to not be that little girl for so long to not have the hand me downs and am JUST getting to a place in my life where I’m not. I feel like the Eagles were kind of in the same place. They would get just close enough…and something would happen and they would fall. Sunday, they beat the shit. I, too am going to beat the shit.
**Deep Breath** So, I was riding high on adrenaline. I thought I could handle This Is Us. I knew it was going to be emotional. (Between you and me, I always cry but don’t tell anyone. It’ll ruin my image.) This episode hit me two fold. It hit me as a child and it hit me as a Mama. I was watching it with my best girl. When Jack came out of the house and handed over the photo albums, I turned to her and said, “Do you know I only have a few pictures of me when I was little?” I had never told her, my house burnt down when I was little. What I wouldn’t do have had a Jack Pearson.
The episode continued, Rebecca was on the phone and the staff started to scurry. I felt it happening. My heart started pounding. I could feel sweat on my neck. I wanted to yell at the television even though I knew it was fictional and already filmed. I knew she would not have heard me. I knew she wasn’t a medical Mama. I saw the movement in the background. I knew. I fucking knew. My stomach was turning. She had never been in a hospital. She would have heard the movement in the scrubs. She would have felt the air change. GOD DAMN IT REBECCA. TURN AROUND. I knew. I know the movement. It is a television show. It is on a magical little box. It is my life.
As I am typing this, my chest is tight and my eyes have sprung such a leak I can hardly see through them. This is post traumatic stress disorder. It will never leave me. The doctor said to her, “I’m sorry Rebecca, Jack has went into cardiac arrest.” Rebecca’s response of, “No. We’re just here for a burn” was the most spot on line I possibly have ever witnessed on television. In THAT moment, I was suddenly transported back 5 years. I was standing outside my son’s room, the ER was informing they were sending for LifeLink to transfer him. My response, “We’re just here for a fucking headache.” Flashforward 5 minutes to the breeze way, the next thing I remember saying, they’re moving us and they think he’s going to to die.
The little magic box. Within 20 minutes brought me elation of childhood dreams coming true and down to the depths of my hell. The thing about the little magic box is…I always have the power to turn it on and off. I clawed my way out of hell…Like an Eagle.